I'm new to online dating as a more physically active person, now. So... bear with me on this.
I’m still getting a sense of when someone is lying and when
they’re honestly looking for a connection. I’m not one to judge based on
ethnicity and religion, but I know what I want and what I don’t want. I want a
man who is confident in himself to carry himself with grace, chivalry, and
honesty. I don’t want a perverted excuse of a man who is just looking to hook
up under the pretense of looking for something more. Aren’t there enough of
those guys in life already? Geez.
So, a guy likes my OkCupid profile and starts chatting with
me. We get along because I get along with everyone, and exchange numbers. We
start texting and decide to try to meet on the same day. I think it’s fast but
he promises no monkey business, just a meeting, nothing more. And I think, “Okay,
this guy can’t be so bad.” So, I agree to make the drive out to him because he
has work… blah blah blah…
First sign of something not right, HE SHOULD HAVE COME OUT
TO ME OR MET ME HALFWAY.
Before meeting him, when I went back to check out his
profile, he had deactivated it. And when I asked him why, he said it was
because he was talking to me. And… well, as sweet as that could have been, that
made me feel like he was hiding something. I felt nervous and anxious but told
myself that it was sweet that he was so focused on me, when in reality, I felt
irked by this.
Second sign of something not right, I FELT IRKED AND YET, I
STILL WENT OUT TO MEET HIM.
Right, so, the drive took over half an hour and he called me
to ask where I was. Right? Why was he so fidgety? Shouldn’t he be the confident
one? … Bad feelings from his voice, too…
Third sign of something not right, I FELT “UGH” FROM HIS
VOICE… SERIOUSLY!! Should have turned around!!
I arrived on time and parked. The guy was halfway down the
street and tried to kiss me upon meeting. Physically, I was disappointed, but I
thought, maybe he has a sparkling personality. I mean, isn’t that why we stick
around if there’s no physical chemistry? Well, he led me into a lovely complex
and to a bench by a man-made pond where some ducks and turtles swam. Along the
way, he told me the last relationship he had was 8 years long and it had been
two years since she ended it with him for a richer man. At that moment, I was
actually ticking off my list of annoyances and he was getting a very high
score. Geez… but, okay, maybe further conversation could make things better,
right?
Fourth sign of something not right, WTF! WHY WOULD YOU KISS
SOMEONE YOU JUST MET WHEN TRYING TO SEEK A LTR WITH THEM??
I was so wrong!! We chatted but thirty minutes in, I felt NO
chemistry and was actually feeling more and more repulsed as he tried to move
closer or chat. I could tell he only had ONE THING on his mind, this coming
from a man who had just been telling me how much he longed to be in a long term
relationship, and how he was willing to go slow because he wanted to be
invested in the relationship part, not just the physical. The last straw was
when he kept talking and I felt like being physically sick just to get away
from him. I thought I let him down gently by telling him that I don’t feel any
chemistry with him. He snapped and got up, saying, “Damn waste of my time,” and
walked off.
Fifth sign of something not right, HE LEFT ME THE MOMENT HE
FOUND OUT I WOULD NOT PUT OUT. WHAT AN ASS!!
Not knowing my way back to the front gate, I followed, as he
repeated, “If we’re not going to hook up, damn waste of my time…” Right? From a
guy who was looking long term, not just at the physical, and hoping for
something more. So he murmured on how I can get back to the front when I asked
and then walked off in the other direction. I walked a bit lost, and had to ask
a kind elderly woman for directions. She gave them to me beautifully and simply.
When I got into my car, I drove off, shaking my head at how poorly I had judged
this guy.
All in
all, this was my WORST EXPERIENCE because he was physically, mentally, and
psychologically not what he tried to come off as through OkCupid and text.
Physically, okay, editing sucks for this reason. Mentally, all he wanted was
sex but used the LTR lure to bring me in. And Psychologically, he was quite
unsound. He mentioned doing a sport and I think he may have been traumatized by
it because he wasn’t all there. Sure, he could have been nervous or shy, but to
give off such strong vibes that disgusted and revolted me from the few moments
we spent together, I’d never felt so… nauseous.
It’s sad,
but, I can see why his former left him. Based on this short encounter, NOTHING
would bring me to unblock his number of contact him again. I mean, yes,
eventually, I want a LTR with a man who is confident and
physically/mentally/psychologically sound and stable… but this man was ALL
WRONG for me. Ugh. Even thinking of him now makes my throat want to close up and
my stomach want to purge its contents.
Seriously… LADIES AND GENTLEMEN who are on online dating
websites… BE CAREFUL!!
